Every man will love at least once….or so the theory goes. The clever ones will hold on to the good woman and the rest will act as if getting a good woman is an entitlement. Sadly I fall into the latter. I’ve made my bed and I’m content in lying in it, she’s gone and gone for good. What saddens me more than losing her is when I see other men making the same mistakes I did. So I’ll do you a onetime favour and let you know the pitfalls to avoid.
Let her know.
The other day I was listening to Maina and Kinga’ng”i on their morning radio show and the topic of the day was “men who don’t say I love you to their partners”. One woman called and said the last time she was told those three words was around five years ago. I know guys think this is macho or that they express their love through providing. Truth is, there is no substitute to telling someone you love them, let them doubt everything else about you, but not your love for her.
Let her be the only one.
There is a huge misconception that for every man there are four women and even if this was true, she is THE one and so make sure she knows that. Yes, it may seem ladies in Nairobi are getting hotter and wearing less by the day, but that is no excuse to ogle. There may be many stars in the sky but she is the sun, when she comes up, the others disappear.
Never stop trying.
So your hard work of winning her over has finally paid off. This is where most men go wrong! You stop nurturing the relationship and like a delicate flower sooner or later it will wither. Just because your crop has germinated doesn’t mean you can sit around and wait to harvest, you still need to water it and make sure it’s not infected with any disease. Same for a relationship, you never stop working at it. So if you are not prepared to work at it, save both of you the wasted time and don’t bother.
I really do hope you heed my advice because like a hungry lion I’ll be waiting to pounce on the one you let go…and trust me, this time round I will not repeat my mistakes.